Power Color - The Confidence Booster

 

🔴 Power Color: Red - The Confidence Booster! 🔴 

Do you have a color that makes you feel confident? When you wear that color, you are ready to take on anything life throws at you? Red is my Power Color. I wear something red whenever I want to make an impact. It is my suit of armor, bringing me strength and courage. I hope that today you find courage in whatever you are wearing. 

There's something truly remarkable about the power of color. The way it can uplift our spirits, boost our confidence, and convey our inner strength to the world. Red has always been my go-to hue when I want to make a lasting impression. 

Red exudes energy, passion, and determination. When I wear this vibrant shade, I feel like I can conquer any challenge that comes my way. It's as if I'm equipped with an invisible force, ready to take charge and make a difference. This color serves as a constant reminder of my capabilities and the potential that lies within me.

Whether it's a striking red dress, or even a subtle accessory, this powerful color can transform my mindset and inspire me to reach for the stars. It acts as a catalyst, propelling me towards success and pushing me to achieve my goals.

But it's not just about the external impact. The confidence that red instills in me resonates on a deeper level. It ignites a fire within my soul, encouraging me to embrace my authenticity and stand out from the crowd. It reminds me that I have unique talents and ideas to contribute, deserving to be heard and seen.

So, today, I encourage you to find your power color, the shade that makes you feel like you can conquer the world. Embrace it, embody it, and let it guide you towards new heights. Whether it's a bold blue, a vibrant yellow, or a serene green, let your power color become your beacon of strength and self-assurance.

Remember, confidence isn't just about what you wear on the outside; it's about the mindset you cultivate within yourself. Let your power color be a constant reminder that you possess the strength, resilience, and courage to overcome any obstacle that comes your way.

Now, it's your turn to share! What's your power color? Let's celebrate the confidence that color brings and inspire each other to shine brightly. Together, let's conquer our dreams and make a lasting impact in our professional and personal lives.

#PowerColor #ConfidenceBooster #EmbraceYourStrength

Lessons Learned

 

I wanted to share with you a personal experience I had recently that reminded me of the value of coaching and the importance of applying the lessons learned in all areas of life.

Last weekend, I participated in the duathlon portion of the New River Splash Triathlon in Jacksonville, North Carolina.  Duathlon means that I would only be riding my bike then running.  I have done this same event in past years.  Within the duathlon, it was the same distances for bike and run as the triathlon participants minus the swim.   

After I showed up for the event, I realized that I had misunderstood the race instructions and the distances I needed to cover. In place of the swim portion, the duathlons would be running 1 mile, then ride bikes 18.5 miles followed by the 3.1 miles (5K).  However, instead of giving up, I used the experience to reflect on some important life lessons that we can all apply to our leadership journeys.

Firstly, always read the instructions and make sure to understand them fully before implementing them.  I assumed that there would only be a bike and run portion at the distances that I had registered in my head.  After the race, I reviewed the race information more closely to find out the complete details.  It is easy to assume that we know what to do, but misunderstandings can lead to costly mistakes. This is why it is essential to read the instructions for understanding and to seek clarification when needed.

Secondly, plan for extra time. I thought that I would be done in one hour and 45 minutes like the previous year while it took me two hours and 7 minutes.  Things often take longer than we expect, and unforeseen circumstances can arise that cause delays. Always factor in some extra time to ensure that you can complete your tasks on time and to the best of your ability.

Lastly, never be afraid to reach out for assistance. It can be tempting to think that we can do everything alone, but having a support system is crucial. During the bike portion, another participant and I kept passing one another.  We encouraged one another and joked, which made the ride fun.  Whether it is a colleague, friend, accountability partner, or coach, find someone who can help you stay positive, motivated, and on track.

The lessons I learned during the duathlon reminded me of the value of coaching. Just like in sports, a coach can provide the guidance and support needed to navigate the challenges of leadership. As a coach myself, I encourage you to consider working with a coach to help you achieve your goals and overcome any obstacles you may face.

Remember, we are all on our own journeys, but with the right mindset and support, we can achieve great things. Keep reading the instructions, plan for extra time, and reach out for assistance when needed.

Overwhelmed

 

Do you ever feel like there just aren't enough hours in the day? Do you find yourself constantly adding tasks to your "To Do" list, only to find that more obligations keep finding their way onto it? It can be overwhelming, and it's a feeling that I'm sure we can all relate to. But here's the thing: how we manage that overwhelm can make all the difference in our future success.

As someone who owns two businesses and is active in Toastmasters, I know all too well the feeling of overwhelm. But I've also learned a few lessons along the way that I'd like to share with you:

First, it's important to distinguish between being busy and being productive. It's easy to fall into the trap of thinking that if we're constantly doing something, we must be making progress. But the truth is that some tasks just keep us busy without actually moving us forward. So, it's important to strike a balance between these kinds of tasks and those that will actually help us achieve our goals.

Second, don't be afraid to ask for help. It can be hard to let go of control and trust someone else to oversee a task, but sometimes it's necessary. And when you do ask for help, you're not only giving yourself some relief, but you're also giving someone else the opportunity to feel needed and useful.

Finally, set boundaries and learn to say "No" more often. It's okay to prioritize your own needs and wants over those of others. Saying "No" can be uncomfortable, but it's better than saying "Yes" and then feeling resentful later.

Check out Brené Brown’s audiobook, “Power of Vulnerability: Teachings of Authenticity, Connection and Courage.” In it, she explains how to practice saying “No.” by standing in front of a mirror and saying different ways to say, “No.”  Try these out - “I’m honored, but I can’t.” “Thank you for considering me; I will have to pass at this time.”  “The timing is not good currently.  Keep me in mind for the future.” 

So, the next time you feel overwhelmed, take a moment to evaluate why you feel that way. Then, take the next best step to regain control. Remember that you deserve to have peace in your pursuit of success. Say "Yes" to yourself and yes to a more fulfilling, productive life.

And if you need some extra support in achieving that balance, consider working with a leadership coach. They can help you identify your priorities and create a plan to achieve them. You deserve to live a life that's both successful and fulfilling.

Schedule an exploratory session today at www.meetwithvirginia.com.

Labels

Be careful of labels.

Labels are all around us –optimistic, trustworthy, smart, motivated, beautiful, friendly.  When we hear words like that to describe us, we feel good about ourselves.  There are labels which have negative connotations – stupid, lazy, inflexible, close-minded, pessimistic, homely.  Labelling a person can harm their potential and create limiting beliefs where there were none.

Growing up, I was labelled “shy.”  To me, shy meant that I was uncomfortable when I met new people.  It also meant that I did not have much to say.  As I was continually called “shy,” I felt undervalued.  I viewed people who were more outgoing to be worthy of more – more friends, positions in school leadership, positions on sports teams.  As I was shy, I did not deserve the opportunities that my outgoing counterparts deserved and earned.

As I grew, both in age and maturity, I outgrew the limiting beliefs of being labelled “shy.”  I learned that having the respect of others was just as important if not more important than being liked by others.  I have learned to be confident in my “shyness.”  When I go to events or activities where I do not know anyone, I survey the room, select a person to befriend, approach them and take time to learn about them.  I do not feel that I must meet everyone in the room; my time is more valuable spent with one-to-one conversations.

I have also learned that being introverted or shy is not a negative, limiting perspective.  Introverted or extroverted is how we re-energize ourselves.  Introverts need time to themselves to regain energy and renewal.  Extroverts need to be around others to regain energy and renewal.

Looking back, I wonder how different my life would have been had I not been labelled “shy.”  Because of this awareness, I am careful not to put labels on others.  Labels are limiting.  If we have been given a positive label, we become afraid of losing that label.  Negative labels hold us back.  We start to believe that label and do not think that we deserve anything better.  Labels can be put in a box which we cannot leave.

Rather than label people, work to gain understanding.  It may require changing our perspective.  Look at people from different angles.  When we have better understanding, we learn to accept one another as we are – a human being, free to be ourselves because of our uniqueness. 

 

 

 

Garbage In, Garbage Out

Garbage In, Garbage Out - This saying comes from the fact that a computer can do only what it is programmed to do and is only as good as the data it receives and the instructions it is given. If there is a logical error in software, or if incorrect data are entered, the result will probably be either a wrong answer or a system crash.

This concept can also apply to our lives – what we put into our minds or our bodies, and who we spend time with can produce positive or negative results.  When we are intentional, what is Going In can positively impact our mindset and actions.  This results in positive results Going Out which leads to a more successful life.  Consider the following areas of your life.  Then determine if there are ways to adjust these areas to allow a growth mindset creating positive results.

What we are watching – There are many options for streaming movies and shows.  From sports to comedy to drama to TED Talks, the options are endless.  If none of your shows are broadening your viewpoint, consider ways to integrate shows to your list that will widen your perspective of the world and enrich your life.  Consider learning about another culture, learning a language, or a different viewpoint on a topic, all of these are available free on the Internet.

What we are listening to – Music and podcast selections, like streaming shows, are endless.  Consider listening to a few that can help your future successful self.  I recommend “The Quote of the Day Show” by Sean Croxton.  Each episode features a quote along with a 5-10 minute inspirational audio clip to encourage you to lead a more fulfilling life. 

What we are reading – Novels are great, and I have learned a lot from historical fiction.  If there is an area of your life that you would like to improve, find a non-fiction book to read.  A few favorites of mine are “The 15 Invaluable Laws of Growth” by John C. Maxwell, and “The 7 Laws of Highly Successful People” by Stephen R. Covey.  If you are a beginner to the growth mindset, each of these books are great starters.

Who we are around – We have heard the term “toxic” when referring to people.  Look at the people who surround you.  Consider if they are supportive of your dreams and goals, or whether they are trying to suppress you.  To have a positive, successful life, we need positivity around us.  When someone is not being supportive to you, take the courage to cut them from your life.  It may be difficult to take that step though you will be grateful once you have.

Evaluate your life and look at the quality of the garbage that is coming in.  Determine if you are being intentional with your growth, or if you are on autopilot.  When we are on autopilot, we continue to get the same results which can lead to an unfulfilled life.  By introducing growth habits into our lives, we move towards a more fulfilled, successful life. A life where we can bring value to others and inspire them to live their best life. 

A leadership coach can help with your journey to a more successful life.  Book a complimentary session today, www.meetwithvirginia.com.

#Success #SelfLeadeship #PersonalGrowth

 

New Beginnings

Spring is a beautiful time of the year.  Signs of new life and new beginnings are all around us – leaves are budding on trees, flowers are bursting through the ground, birds are lining their nests and laying eggs.  In North Carolina, the azaleas are in bloom, and neighbors are mowing their lawn.  Dead wood and leaves are being pruned from plants to make way for new blooms and new life.

Soon, I will be purchasing vegetable plants and annuals from a local nursery to brighten my yard.  I pull weeds, fertilize and mulch as necessary.  All of this is done in anticipation of how colorful my flower beds will look in the summer and fall.  I also enjoy fresh tomatoes, cucumbers, peppers, and sweet potatoes from my garden.  This time of renewal brings hope for new beginnings.

Let’s take inspiration from this season and use it as an opportunity to begin anew ourselves.  Whether it’s starting a new project, setting new goals, or letting go of old habits, let’s embrace the spirit of spring and make the most of this time of new beginnings.

Consider all aspects of your life – personal relationships, professional, spiritual, health and financial.  What obligations or habits are not serving you?  Perhaps it is time to weed and prune aspects that are no longer serving you.  If we do not change, we cannot grow.   When we grow, we can find happiness and contentment in all areas of our lives.

Use this season as a reminder to start fresh, set new goals and work towards becoming the best versions of ourselves.

#spring #newbeginnings #freshstart #inspirationS

Stuck

 

Have you ever felt stuck?  Not physically stuck, like your foot, or your vehicle are stuck in the mud, but mentally stuck.  You know that you have things to do however no matter what you do, you cannot bring yourself to do them.  There are deadlines to be made and connections to be made yet you just cannot bring yourself to do those tasks.

I experienced this recently.  I have a weekly schedule with deadlines, appointments, and goals to meet.  Yet, every time that I set my mind to tackle one of these items, I was stuck, unmotivated.  I did not make progress in any of the important tasks.  I would find myself scrolling social media, washing dishes in the middle of the day and other random tasks that were not moving me or my business closer to success.

As the weekend came, I totally stepped away from my desk and schedule leaving it all for a few days.  I weeded my flower beds, helped my parents, took a long bike ride with my husband, among other things.  As I was doing these “non-work” tasks and projects, I found myself brainstorming and clarifying the work projects that were holding me back.  On Sunday evening as I prepared my weekly schedule, I felt focused and ready to hit the ground running on Monday.

During my time away from work, I considered what to do when stuck mentally.  Here are strategies which I have used successfully:

·      Health check.  Consider your overall health - your vitals, eating habits, sleep habits, mental state.  Does anything seem off?  Is this greater than a mild roadblock or should you check in with a health provider?  Take note of any warning signs and act appropriately.

·         Brain Dump. Grab a sheet of paper, a journal and a writing utensil.  Set a timer for 2 minutes then write down whatever is on your mind.  If you want, start with a salutation, “Dear Self”, “Dear God”, “Good morning!” – this is for your information only, you set the rules.  You can make a list of blessings, tasks, random thoughts.  It is an opportunity to clear you mind and start fresh.  Doing a Brain Dump before going to bed can be helpful for a better night's sleep.

·         Take a Movement Break.  At times, we become stuck at our desks for hours without realizing how long we have been there.  Drop whatever you are doing and get moving!  I will take a walk outside to clear my mind and enjoy nature.  Another favorite is to do a quick workout; FitOn is a free fitness app with a variety of workout options including mediation, cardiovascular, yoga, strength and more.  This helps get the blood flowing and wakes the body up.

·         Set a timer.  Pick one of your tasks that you have been avoiding, set a timer for 30 minutes, and only focus on that project.  Challenge yourself to turn-off notifications from email or apps during the timeframe.  You will be impressed with how much you can accomplish in that 30 minutes when other distractions are eliminated.

·         Accountability.  Select a way to be held accountable for working on a project.  Perhaps, you tell a friend or colleague about your goal.  Ask them to check in with you and encourage you to complete that goal.  Hold yourself accountable by sharing the goal on Social Media.  Friends and followers can follow your progress, cheer you along the way then celebrate when the task is complete.

When you become stuck, show yourself grace.  We cannot be pushing hard all the time.  Acknowledge the roadblock and determine the best way to navigate through.   Consider how a self-leadership coach can help work through the obstacles and be an accountability partner for your journey.

Most importantly, do not give up.  Be resilient and push through the roadblocks.  You will be proud of yourself when you reach the other side.

Flexibility

 

My family and I had the blessing of going on an Antarctic Expedition in late February.  As one would say, “A Trip of a Lifetime” to be able to  set foot on the “7^th Continent”.  We boarded Atlas Ocean Voyages World Traveller on February 27, 2023, for 9 days to explore the Shetland Islands and other parts of Antarctica.   On this type of cruise, there are no ports where the ship could dock.  For 5 days, it was “Captain’s Choice” as to where to we would go.  This was due to the uncertainty of weather and water conditions in Antarctica.  The first days on ship were spent with briefing from the Expedition Staff to explain the processes of going ashore, zodiac cruising, safety measures and information about the marine life in the area.

The first mind-set or “Spirit of the Voyage” was 1. Flexibility, 2. Flexibility and 3. Flexibility.  This gained a few laughs from the passengers though we would have to remember it throughout the cruise.  At times, the flexibility was joyous – we arrived early to Antarctica and were able to go ashore an extra time.  Another time, it was a bit disappointing – the weather changed quickly and became unsafe which cut short our Zodiac Cruise. 

One time, the disappointment found unexpected experiences: we could not go ashore due to the landing zone being blocked with ice.  Our landing would be replaced by a cruise around the Iceberg Graveyard.  There were beautiful icebergs of all shapes and colors.  The unexpected bonus was a leopard seal who followed our Zodiac for some time, playing in the bubbles and circling the boat.  We were open to these wonderful experiences because we had the flexibility to adapt to the changes and adjust our expectations.

Flexibility requires change which can be difficult.  There are ways to process change then being flexible becomes easier. 

1.       Change your expectations.  When we go into a situation with a certain picture of how things should be, it is disappointing when the results are not as we expected.  Become aware of why you are not being flexible then adapt to the situation at hand.

2.       Take a moment to process the change before responding.  This could mean asking questions about the change or asking for time to process the change.  When there is an understanding of the change, it is easier to be flexible. 

3.       Change your perspective.  Look at the situation from a different point of view.  Stephen Covey calls this the “Paradigm Shift.”  Change the way that you perceive something by looking at it from a different viewpoint.  Changing your perspective can be very powerful for better understanding.

Next time that you are struggling with an unexpected change, consider how you can be flexible.  How you adapt can effect your attitude and behavior.  This in turn effects our relationships with others.  Choose to be flexible and you will find a more rewarding, adventurous life!

Life Begins at the End of Your Comfort Zone

 

When was the last time that you tried something new?  The last time that you stepped out of your comfort zone, acknowledged your fear, and did something that you had never done before?  The last time that I stepped out of my comfort zone, I leaped out of my comfort zone, was March 3.  I jumped into the Artic Waters for a Polar Plunge.  My family and I were on an Antarctic Expedition.  Besides walking among penguins, seal and Artic birds, we had the choice to jump into 32.5F waters.  We all said “Yes!”  and took the plunge.

It happened so quickly that we wished for a second opportunity to adjust from the first plunge however it was a one and done opportunity.  (Seriously, look at the expression on my face – I want a do-over.)

Not only was this stepping out of my comfort zone, it was even more miraculous because I only learned to swim 10 years ago.  I took swim lessons as a child however I did not conquer the skill.  Because of my inability to swim, I missed out on swimming with friends and family snorkeling trips.  For my 25^th Wedding Anniversary, I surprised my husband by taking swim lessons.  Stepping out of my comfort zone to learn to swim at the age of 45, I have been able to snorkel all over the world and compete in triathlons. 

When we try something new, our brain undergoes changes to adapt to the new experience.  The changes can happen in different areas of the brain, depending on the type of activity or task.

1.      Neuroplasticity: This is the brain’s ability to change and adapt.  When we try something new, the brain creates new neural connections and strengthens existing ones to accommodate new information.

2.      Increased dopamine release: Dopamine is a neurotransmitter that is associated with pleasure, reward, and motivation.  When our brain releases dopamine during new experiences, it can motivate us to continue exploring and trying new things.

3.      Increased brain activity: Trying something new can increase activity in several regions of the brain, including the prefrontal cortex, which is involved in decision-making, planning and attention, and the hippocampus, which is involved in memory and learning.

4.      Improved cognitive function: Trying something new can also improve cognitive function by challenging the brain to learn new skills and information.  This can lead to increased mental agility, creativity, and problem-solving abilities.

Stepping out of your comfort zone and trying something new is the gift that keeps on giving.  It can be a positive and rewarding experience for the brain, promoting growth, learning and development.

What is standing between you and trying something new?  New experiences can lead to personal growth.  Don’t delay; take the plunge today!

She Believed She Could, So She Did

 

I love to run races!  I have run 1-milers, 5K, 10K, Half-Marathon, Duathlons (bike and run), Spring Triathlons (swim, bike, run) and a Spartan (Obstacle) Race.  I have competed by myself when I did not know any of the other participants, and I have competed with family and friends.  There is joy and camaraderie among the participants at these races.  I have had tears in my eyes when hearing the National Anthem, when fireworks are shot off at the beginning of the Columbus Marathon, high fiving the hands of patients from Nationwide Children's Hospital or their family members.  When I am doubting my ability to finish a race, the spirit and enthusiasm of participants and spectators provides renewed energy so I can continue to press on to the finish.

There is much to be learned from these races that can be applied to our lives.

-          We all move at different paces.  The pace in which we move is right for us at that time.  When I have been training consistently, my pace has been faster.  When I was younger, I was faster.  I will be slower with a headwind, faster with a tailwind.  Life is the same.  At times, we are moving briskly, everything is going for us.  Then BAM something gets in our way to slow us down.  It is important to keep moving, no matter the pace.  When we continue to take steps towards our goals, we are still moving in the right direction.

-          We are all running a different race.  Perhaps you question that – in a 5K race, isn’t everyone running the same race?  Not exactly.  I have asked those around me in races their reason for running: one person’s goal was to complete the race no matter the time, another runner wanted to set a personal record (PR), another runner was running in memory of a friend. Everyone’s reasons for running that day were different.  Same with life, my goals are not your goals, nor are your goals my goals. 

-          We are in this together – The year that my daughters and I decided to run the Columbus Half-Marathon for the first time, I found a training schedule and kept to it.  My daughters’ training was not as consistent.  On race day, my younger daughter and I were having an easy time of the race.  My older daughter was struggling and told us not to wait for her.  We chose to stick together, no matter the pace.  When you are struggling in life, look around, there are others who will encourage you and stay by your side for as long as needed.

-          Mental game – Your mind will give up long before your body.  At a recent race, I was feeling sluggish and ready to walk rather than run.  When I want to stop, I catch myself and use different mental tricks to keep going.  I convinced myself to run until the next streetlight.  When I got there, I told myself to go a bit further.  Eventually, I worked through the hesitation and completed the race.  We have to talk ourselves through many aspects of our lives – courage to start something new, to persist when times get tough, do things that are not fun but necessary.  What we say to ourselves can make or break us.  Keep it positive and encouraging. 

-          Consistency in Preparation – The best are not always the ones that succeed, success comes from consistency - consistent with their training, positive thoughts.  When the weather is bad, they adapt their training by running on a treadmill or wearing raingear during a run.   Along with the running, they prepare their body with strength training, stretching, and good diet.  They have a vision and consistently take steps towards reaching that goal.  Whatever the goal may be, do the challenging work daily.  The consistency compounds in success.

What race are you running?  Which areas do you need to strengthen?  Self-leadership is the key.  A Self-Leadership Coach can help you master self-care, stop sabotaging new habits, and develop self-leadership skills to help you succeed in the race of life.

Age is Just a Number

 

Age is Just a Number

It is my birthday week – turning 55 years old on March 1.  Funny, I don’t feel that old.  I am proud of what I can do at my age – run 5K races, ride my bike great distances, lift weights, start a new business, hug my friends and family.  I have been to 5 continents, 44 countries and 41 states, and plan to add to that count.

There is so much that I can do that I seldom look at what I cannot do, or not desire to do.  I do not care to run a marathon, but I could try.  I do not want to climb Mt. Everest, but I could try.  I do not want to scuba dive, but I could try.  I do not want to do a Tik Tok dance, but I could try.    I have choices of what to do or not.  I do not let my age limit these choices or let someone decide for me.

Author, Greg McKeown states “The ability to choose cannot be taken away or even given away—it can only be forgotten.”   We should not let our age or circumstances make decisions for us.  I look at my options then determine if that is something for me.  The other piece of that quote is not to forget about our ability to choose.  In life, we choose whether or not to learn and grow our knowledge and skills.  I believe that when we quite choosing to learn, we slowly start to die inside.  I choose to learn and live – no matter my age.

When I was 45 years old, I decided that it was time to learn to swim.  I took swim lessons when I was younger but had not mastered the techniques or ability to float.  I wanted to be able to snorkel with my family on vacations.  At 45 years old, I took the leap to take swim lessons.  Since then, I have snorkeled in many places, including Phuket, Thailand where sharks and sea turtles swam past me.  The ability to swim has allowed me to participate in triathlons.  Wow!  If you would have told me years ago that I would be swimming plus participating in triathlons, I would have not believe you.  Because I stepped outside my comfort zone and into the water, many new opportunities came to me.

If I had limited my choices and stayed in my comfort zone, I would still be sitting on the boat while my family experienced amazing underwater sea life.  At 45 years of age, I decided that my desire to snorkel and swim with my family was greater than my fear of the water. 

This year, I am challenging myself to master a crow pose in Yoga.  It requires strength, focus and believing in myself.  I know that there will be many falls before finding that balance.  I am not giving up until I can conquer it.  I will share photos along the way.

What about you?  What limitations are you placing on yourself due to your age or a fear?  Consider what is on the outside of your comfort zone.  There is life to be lived, new experiences, success in going after your dream.  It is your decision to make.

Decide to take that first step.  Success is not immediate.  There will be many steps on your way to fulfilling that dream.  The first attempts may result in failure but do not give up.  Acknowledge the difficulties then learn from them.  You will learn a lot on the journey to success.

Have an accountability partner – let others know your dream so they can encourage you along the way.  I am here for you.  I believe in you and know that you can and will succeed in those things that you desire the most.

Don’t be limited by your age.  Do not let others take away your ability to decide. 

“Once you make a decision, the universe conspires to make it happen.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson

Make it a great week!

Honoring the First Ladies on Presidents' Day

 

My Favorite First Lady of the United States Quotes

At first, I planned to have today’s Monday Motivation to focus on quotes from various Presidents due to it being President’s day.  Then I started to think about the importance of the women in their lives – the First Ladies. 

I am currently reading Michelle Obama’s book, “The Light We Carry”.  She mentions the 8 years that she spent in the White House.  Consider the sacrifices that First Ladies make to support their husbands as they fulfilled the duties of the President of the United States.  They stepped away from a career while in the White House.  When there were children, they uprooted them from their homes, their schools to bring them to Washington DC.  The First Ladies are tasked with being hostess to a variety of visitors and dignitaries both national and international. 

The First Ladies also act as their spouse’s confidant and sounding board.  Imagine the secrets that they must know and keep.  All of this while constantly being judged on what they say, do and wear.  I admire these women for their strength to maintain their dignity and compassion while experiencing extremely critical feedback against their husbands, families and themselves.

These ladies were remarkable in their own right.  Many were college educated.  They had various service careers and were active in community and charitable organizations.  They experienced death of their children, cancer, addictions, discrimination – the same struggles that all women have.  Yet they never gave up on themselves, their husbands or family.  They demonstrated the necessity of having inner strength and resiliency to lead successful lives.

On this President’s Day, I salute the First Ladies and share favorite quotes from them.  Take time to reflect on the quotes and consider how they can apply in your life.

•          The greatest part of our happiness or misery depends on dispositions and not our circumstances. – Martha Washington
•           If we mean to have heroes, statesmen and philosophers, we should have learned women. – Abigail Adams
•           You gain strength, courage, and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face.  You are able to say to yourself, “I lived through this horror.  I can take the next thing that comes along”. – Eleanor Roosevelt
•           Become so wrapped up in something that you forget to be afraid. – Lady Bird Johnson
•           Confidence, I’d learned then, sometimes needs to be called from within.  I’ve repeated the same words to myself so many times now, through many climbs.  Am I good enough?  Yes I am. – Michelle Obama

Do you have a favorite quote from a First Lady?  Share it with me on Facebook or LinkedIn.

Take these encouraging words from these First Ladies and apply them to your life.  Believe in yourself; if your belief is waning, share my belief in you.

Make it a great week!

Random Acts of Kindness

 

Helping Others to Help Yourself

Ahh – Valentine’s Day.  There are different outlooks and viewpoints about this holiday.  It originally began as a day to honor early Christian martyrs name Saint Valentine.  Today, it is a commercial celebration of romance and love throughout the world.  It can be viewed as a day to bestow gifts and extra attention to that special someone in your life.

Others may view the day with disdain because they do not have a special someone in their life, or they have been burnt by love.  They may choose to wear black on Valentine’s Day and wallow in self-pity.

What is your stance of Valentine's Day?  Are you wearing red and spreading cheer, or wearing black and commiserating?

If the words of Booker T. Washington, “If you want to lift yourself up, lift up someone else.”  I interpret this to mean that if we look to the needs of others, we forget our own woes for a time and our outlook on life changes.  We can choose to be happier, just by focusing on the needs of others. 

Change your view of Valentine's Day and consider that the week of February 12-18 is Random Acts of Kindness Week with February 17 being Random Acts of Kindness Day.  What can you do to brighten another’s day?  It does not have to include a lot of money or time.  Simple acts can go a long way. 

Consider some of the following:

-          Leave snacks and a thank you for delivery drivers.

-          Mail an encouraging handwritten letter.

-          Sign up to be an organ donor.

-          Compliment a stranger.

-          Put away your phone and fully pay attention to someone.

-          Donate blood.

-          Leave a generous tip.

-          Buy coffee for the person behind you in line.

-          Do a chore without being asked.

-          Smile and wave at others.

-          Post and comment positive vibes on social media.  Use the following hashtags to encourage others - #kindness #RAOK #kindnessmatters #bekind #actsofkindness

“Not all of us can do great things.  But we can do small things with great love.” – Mother Teresa

Random acts of kindness do not have to be grand or costly.  The smallest efforts can have a great impact on others.  Bonus is that you will better for being kind to others.  Check out https://www.randomactsofkindness.org/kindness-ideas for more ideas of being nice and paying it forward. 

I hope that your week is filled with kindness, love, and positive vibes.

Make it a great week!

Clutter

Clutter is nothing more than the manifestation of indecision. – Wendy Ellin

I discovered this quote recently when it was shared on LinkedIn.  I thought – how insightful.  At times, clutter is not necessarily being lazy or messy, we are avoid deciding what to do with something or about something.  Magazines were piling up on one of my end tables because I could not decide whether to read them, recycle them, donate them to the library or keep them for my Vision Board.  Until I made a decision, they were taking up space in our living room making it look cluttered. 

Then I considered the angst and stress that having the magazines piling up created in the house.  My husband gently asking what my plans were with the magazines.  The cats knocking them onto the floor when running across them.  My stress when looking at them because I had not made a decision.  Eventually, I made the decision to store them in a closet to have when I make my Vision Board.

Consider other areas of our lives where there is “clutter”.  Not necessarily physical clutter but mental clutter.  Worrying about things out of our control.  Putting off making a phone call because it may be an uncomfortable conversation.  Discontent due to comparing your life to another’s.  This is the type of mental clutter which can prevent us from doing things of importance and living our best life. 

Let’s clean up the physical and mental clutter in our lives.  Start by assessing what is cluttering your life.  Walk around your physical environment and make a list of areas that you feel are cluttered.  Prioritize which area to tackle first then set a deadline to take care of it.  Determine what family member(s) can help with those areas.  Taking 15 minutes each day to deal with physical clutter will lead to a sense of peace and accomplishment. 

Then deal with that mental clutter.  Set the timer for 5 minutes and write down whatever is on your mind – deadlines, difficulties, gratitude – include positive and negative.  Are there thoughts which you can set free?  Concerns that are not in your control that need to be released?  What items are a necessity and need to be managed – making that phone call, paying the bills?  Set deadlines for taking care of those items.

When writing down this mental clutter, you create a picture that is more manageable, less overwhelming.  As the saying goes “Eat an elephant one bite at a time”.   Tackle each item from that list one at a time.  In time, your list will become smaller.  Then you will feel a sense of accomplishment and peace in taking care of both the physical and mental clutter.

Other time of mind clutter are negative thoughts floating around.  How are you talking to yourself?  Are you supportive and positive, or negative and doubting?  We are own best cheerleaders.  Remind yourself that you are beautiful, amazing, strong and a person of value.

Throughout this process, create new habits which will prevent the clutter.  For the physical clutter, deal with items daily rather than letting them pile up.  For the mental clutter, create new habits which will lead to a more productive life – setting deadlines, meditation, positive self-talk.  Don’t let the clutter control you; you control the clutter.

We are on the Earth to assist one another.  Find the support in your life that can hold you accountable and challenge you to live up to your full potential.  A self-leadership coach can be that person.  Reach out, and we can discuss how we can take control of that clutter together. 

What type of Leader do you want to be?

 

Monday Motivation, January 30, 2023

What type of leader do you want your daughter to be?   This is the question that my second-grade teacher, Mrs. Knipper (now Mrs. Giesy), asked my parents.  I do not remember any specific incidents from second grade which may have spurred this statement, though I can remember other grade school incidents of which I was not on my best behavior. 

My elementary was small, only one classroom for grades kindergarten – sixth.  My class was also small, no more than 24 students in any year.  I was a big fish in a very small pond though I did not realize it at the time.  I was not always the nicest child and did tease other students.  If there was trouble in my class, I was the first one questioned.  The school principal and I were on a first name basis.  Because I was a good student and took responsibility, the punishments were never very harsh.  I remember teasing a classmate on the school bus.  The punishment was to sit in the front of the bus by myself; having everyone walk past and know why I was sitting up front - in solitude. 

After Mrs. Knipper spoke to my parents about my leadership, my parents considered how to guide me to a more positive future.  Their solution was to put me in charge of the calves on our dairy farm.  Up until this point, I was not required to do barn chores before school and had few responsibilities after school.  My four older siblings were all required to work in the barn before and after school.  Now, I was joining them.  This required me to get up at 5am, dress for the barn and feed the calves prior to having breakfast and going to school.  After school, we would do it all again before dinner.  Growing up in the snow belt of northeast Ohio, this was not a fun task during the winter. 

Did the responsibility of caring for the calves cure my wild side?  Probably not immediately however it did establish in me a solid work ethic.  I learned to take care of responsibilities before doing the fun things.  I also learned how to treat others according to the Golden Rule. 

The activities that did shape my leadership can be linked back to the farm, especially involvement in 4-H.  4-H Youth development program taught me project management, leadership skills, teamwork, and confidence.  All this points back to that question, “What type of leader do you want your daughter to be?”

I have come a long way from that little second grade student with the shag haircut (circled in photo) who had little direction.  I have learned skills that bring value to others.  As an encouraging and open-minded listener, a confident connector, and empowering and resourceful leader, I guide my clients to a brighter future filled with confidence, happiness and success.

What type of leader do you want to be?  Who was the Mrs. Knipper in your life?  Remember that becoming a leader is a journey.  By continually improving and honing our skills, we can lead and serve those around us and inspire them to become the best version of themselves.  VSM Coaching and Consulting is here to walk with you on that journey. 

Make it a momentous week!